Tuesday, February 13, 2018

Lions And Hurricanes And Survivors, Oh My

Chantelle Thomas-Henderson (Just in case you forgot my name before I got married), ©2018

I've been told that I’m a great writer although I fail to see it.  I typically just write whatever’s on my mind & heart, drum up some keyboard courage & press enter.  But what I’m working on right now....Well, my pen is full of ink waiting to be all used up & needing to be replaced by the next pen, & the next.  It’s like a hurricane named “Me Too” & it is about to hit landfall.  It’s like a baby cub that grew into a lion & it’s about to roar.  It is the innocence of a little girl who is now an adult fierce survivor & warrior princess.  It’s a long dark road that at the end has “Time’s Up” in bright lights.  It’s like dipping your foot in the water for years & now you’re on the high dive getting ready to leap with grace & strength.  It’s the music playing that you finally dance to like no one’s watching.  It is the trees undressed in the winter that’s about to burst forth with color & life in the spring.  It’s been standing on the sidelines for years watching & cheering on other soul sister survivors & now I’m about to sprint.  I’m on mark.  It is everything that I’ve only spoken of in whispers but now hold a bullhorn in my hands; ready to speak my truth, to tell my story, withholding nothing.  To be authentic.  To be bold.  To be unafraid.  To be the reason another boy, girl, man, or woman will no longer live shackled in chains of shame, fear, embarrassment-trapped in the dungeon of trauma of being violated & blamed, harassed, assaulted, abused, manipulated, groomed, forgotten, not believed.  My chains are broken.  My hands are free.  My heart is ready.  My vision clear.  And passion unleashed.  Now.....I’m going to get that piece of paper & those pens & get started. ~ 
“So often survivors have had their experiences denied, trivialized, or distorted. Writing is an important avenue for healing because it gives you the opportunity to define your own reality. You can say: This did happen to me. It was that bad. It was the fault & responsibility of the adult. I was—and am—innocent.” ~ Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
#metoo #timesup #thebabysitter #V

Sunday, February 4, 2018


©2018 Chantelle Henderson

I can't believe I am writing my first blog for 2018.  As you can see the entire website got a makeover which I am very pleased with.  I hope everyone's year is going so good so far.

As is customary for me, I have my word of the year.  I felt the Lord gave it to me in the middle of last year but it was that still small whisper that my word for 2018 is ABIDE.  First, let's look at the definition for the word, "ABIDE".

According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary


verb  \ ə-ˈbīd \

To bear patiently
Endure without yielding
To wait for
To accept without objection
To remain stable or fixed
To continue in a place

I found the words that would require me to abide, especially when I want to take things into my own hands and leave the covering, protection, and guidance of The Father behind and venture out on my own.  Lysa TerKeurst, wrote the following in her book, "Uninvited" - "Jesus doesn't participate in the rat race.  He's into the slower rhythms of life, like abiding, delighting, and dwelling-all words that require us to trust Him with our place and our pace."  Once I started researching the word and it's meaning, I surrendered all of my preconceived ideas of what "abiding" meant.  As always, I must endure  the good, the not-so-good, and the in between while on this new journey of abiding in Him through it all.  Abiding is where that supernatural peace and the ability to rest through my fears, doubts, and hard places collide with the grace and mercy of the Lord.  Through it all I pray and strive to abide-this new word that is stretching me and allowing me to grow in wisdom as it pertains to its meaning.  Like a newborn, I am learning to crawl, and pray that eventually I will walk, and then run in my pursuit of abiding.  This is only the beginning.  What I've learned so far is that in order for me to abide, dwell, remain, be steadfast, and trusting demands the revelation and perspective that He's a loving, merciful, just, and sovereign God.

The Words of Psalm 91:1  is where I am pitching my tent at the beginning of this whole abiding thing.

"He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the almighty.  I will say to the Lord, my refuge and my fortress, My God, in whom I trust.

Here is my own list that I felt compelled to write about where abiding in Him is my only hope.  Your "In the ________" may look differently than mine.  I encourage you to make your own declarations.

In the silence
I will abide.

In the mourning
I will abide.

In the uncertainty
I will abide.

In the battle
I will abide.

In the raging storm
I will abide.

In the brokenness
I will abide.

In the valley
I will abide.

In the pain
I will abide.

In the lonliness
I will abide.

In the fear
I will abide.

In the loss
I will abide.

In the joy
I will abide.

In the blessings
I will abide.

In the laughter
I will abide.

In the dancing
I will abide.

In the freedom
I will abide.

On the mountaintop
I will abide.

In the victory
I will abide.

In the abundance
I will abide.

In the truth
I will abide.

In the peace
I will abide.

~ CH

At the very bottom is a picture of my "ABIDE" Giving Key Bracelet and Necklace.  They are treasures that constantly remind me that to abide in Him is the best place I could ever be found regardless of the cares of this worlds.

So Remember:

💗Bear Patiently
💙Endure Without Yielding
💚Wait For
💛Accept Without Objection
💜Remain Stable And Fixed
💗Continue In A place

Because Of Christ,